# Neufeld Institute



## About

**URL:** https://www.neufeldinstitute.org
**By:** Jesper Conrad

## Pages

- [Download - A Postscript for the Digital Age](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/download-a-postscript-for-the-digital-age)
- [Gordon Neufeld at EFT World Summit 2027 | Vancouver](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/neufeld-institute-events/eft-2027): Dr. Gordon Neufeld delivers a keynote at the Emotionally Focused Therapy World Summit, May 11, 2027, in Vancouver. Topic: Making Sense of Kids and Marriage – Chapter Two.
- [Curated Recording Bundles](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/recordings/bouncing-back): Choose from Neufeld Institute curated recording bundles with on-demand sessions on attachment, resilience, stress, and emotional well-being for parents and professionals.
- [Address at the Kyiv First Ladies and Gentlemen Summit](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/address-kyiv-summit): Watch Dr. Gordon Neufeld’s 16-minute address at the Kyiv First Ladies and Gentlemen Summit on youth mental health, attachment, play, and resilience.
- [For Educators](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/recordings/bouncing-back/for-educators): The For Educators Bundle offers 14 hours of Neufeld Institute recordings with insights on attachment, emotional well-being, and supporting students in class.
- [Keynote Speaker Sessions ](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/recordings/bouncing-back/keynote-speaker-sessions): The Keynote Speaker Sessions Bundle offers eight recordings with Gordon Neufeld, Deborah MacNamara, and Tamara Strijack on attachment, trauma, play, and well-being.
- [Support Centre](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/support-centre): Deepen your learning with Gordon Neufeld’s attachment-based approach. The Support Centre offers master classes, case studies, and community for Neufeld students.
- [Ode to Melancholy](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/ode-to-melancholy): Free 1.25-hour talk by Genevieve Schreier: Ode to Melancholy explores the role of sadness in human growth and why embracing it unlocks potential.
- [For Counsellors/Helping Professionals](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/recordings/bouncing-back/counsellors-professionals): The For Counsellors & Helping Professionals Bundle offers six Neufeld Institute sessions with guidance on trauma, resilience, attachment, and emotional healing.
- [Support Needs Focus ](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/recordings/bouncing-back/support-needs-focus): The Support Needs Focus Bundle offers six Neufeld Institute sessions with guidance on nurturing sensitive children, fostering resilience, and reducing stress.
- [A Taste Test of the Intensive One](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/a-taste-test-of-the-intensive-one): Watch Gordon Neufeld and Karen Bollman introduce Intensive I: Making Sense of Kids—a 3D map of attachment, vulnerability, and maturation.
- [Young Children Focus ](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/recordings/bouncing-back/young-children-focus): The Young Children Focus Bundle from Neufeld Institute Conference 2022 brings together six sessions designed to help you navigate the early years with insight and ease. This thoughtfully selected collection is filled with practical guidance rooted in developmental science and attachment-based practices, equipping you with the tools to nurture resilience, emotional well-being, and healthy relationships in young children.
- [Shyness, Shame, and Social Anxiety: teasing them apart - Online lecture by Dr. Gordon Neufeld](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/recordings/shyness): Understand how shyness, shame, and social anxiety differ in this recorded lecture by Dr. Gordon Neufeld—essential insights for parents, educators, and professionals.
- [Danish Language Program](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages/danish): The Danish Neufeld Institute program, led by Grete Lyngdorf, offers online courses with Danish support.
- [Polish Language Program](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages/polish): The Polish Neufeld Institute program, led by Joanna Bylinka, offers courses in Polish and English, supporting parents, teachers, and professionals online and onsite.
- [The Sorry Plane](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/books/the-sorry-plane): This children’s book by Deborah MacNamara, rooted in Gordon Neufeld’s approach, teaches the value of real emotion behind a true sorry.
- [Ukrainian Language Program](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages/ukrainian): The Ukrainian Neufeld Institute program, co-led by Iryna Shokur and Yulia Fomina, offers courses for foster parents, social workers, and families in Ukrainian.
- [Swedish Language Program](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages/swedish): The Swedish Neufeld Institute program, led by Jonas Himmelstrand, offers online courses with Swedish support.
- [The Wisdom Of Dependence](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/recordings/wisdom): Watch Dr. Gordon Neufeld’s keynote The Wisdom of Dependence, exploring why dependence is central in relationships. Includes insights from Neufeld faculty.
- [Data Protection Policy](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/data-protection-policy): Read the Neufeld Institute’s data protection policy. We safeguard personal information, comply with Canadian and EU laws, and never share or store credit cards.
- [Adolescent Focus ](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/recordings/bouncing-back/adolescent-focus): The Adolescent Focus Bundle offers 13+ hours of Neufeld Institute recordings with guidance on attachment, resilience, and supporting teens through change.
- [Adriatic Languages Program](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages/adriatic): The Adriatic Neufeld Institute program, led by Urška Žugelj, offers lectures and study groups in Bosnian, Croatian, Montenegrin, Serbian, and Slovenian.
- [Hebrew Language Program](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages/hebrew): The Hebrew Neufeld Institute program, led by Elana Strobinsky, offers online courses, parent education, and professional training in Hebrew.
- [Bouncing Back: From Stress to Strength](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/bouncing-back): Free keynote by Dr. Gordon Neufeld: Bouncing Back explores how children and adults can recover from stress and trauma through emotion and attachment.
- [Screen Sense](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/recordings/screen-sense): Explore how screens and AI shape child development and attachment. Get access to the recording of Screen Sense an online symposium with Gordon Neufeld, Tamara Strijack, and Deborah MacNamara.
- [Newsletter Sign Up](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/newsletter): Sign up for our newsletter to receive insights, editorials, and updates on new courses, webinars, and scheduled classes
- [Professional Support for Parents](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/professional-support-for-parents): The Neufeld Institute offers professional support for parents through trained consultants, helping apply developmental insights to nurture healthy growth.
- [Gail Remembered](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/gail-remembered): Remembering Gail Carney, senior Neufeld Institute faculty and administrator. Explore her legacy, tributes, editorials, and the Gail Eleanor Carney Scholarship Fund.
- [Keys to Emotional Health & Well-Being](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/becoming-the-answer-a-child-needs): Becoming the ANSWER a Child Needs: In this foundational keynote, Dr. Neufeld offers a compelling invitation: we, not the experts, are the answer our children need.
- [The Wisdom of Dependence](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/wisdom-of-dependence): Our attitudes toward dependence shape everything we do as parents, teachers, and caregivers — yet modern culture has been getting it wrong. 
- [Ukrainian Orphan Project ](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/support/ukrainian-orphan-project): Neufeld Institute’s Support for Ukraine’s Family Care for Orphans Initiative
- [Czech/Slovak Language Programs](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages/czech-slovak): The Czech and Slovak Neufeld programs offer online courses, translations, and events, led by Ksienia Majznerová Biazrukaja and Lina Vizelman.
- [Creating Playgrounds for Emotional Expression](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/playgrounds-for-emotional-expression): Free 1.25-hour webinar with Tamara Strijack & Hannah Beach on creating safe spaces for emotional expression in children, teens, and adults.
- [Keeping Children Safe in a Wounding World](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/wounding-world): Neufeld reveals the keys to delivering safety in a world that is increasingly hurtful, especially for our children. 
- [French Language Program](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages/french): The Neufeld Institute French program, led by Mathieu Lyons, offers online courses and resources in French, supported by Hold On to Your Kids translation.
- [Making Sense of Kids](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/making-sense-of-kids): In this keynote, Dr. Gordon Neufeld reflects on why insight, not information, is essential for making sense of children and becoming the adults they need.
- [Editorials by Tamara Strijack](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/tamara-strijack): Read editorials by Tamara Strijack on attachment, play, anxiety, and emotional expression—bringing the Neufeld developmental approach to real-life insights.
- [German Language Program](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages/german): The German Neufeld Institute program, led by psychologist Jule Epp, offers online and in-person courses for parents, teachers, and professionals in German.
- [Power to Parent III](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/power-to-parent-3): Neufeld's ability to make sense of common childhood problems paves the way for parents to address them effectively. 
- [Research](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/research): The Neufeld Scientific Research Centre shares published studies on the relational developmental approach, supporting researchers, students, and professionals worldwide.
- [Preparing for Motherhood](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/preparing-for-motherhood): Free 1.25-hour workshop with Dr. Gordon Neufeld on preparing for motherhood. Learn how attachment provides the foundation for healthy child development.
- [Practitioner Support ](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/practitioner-support): The Neufeld Institute offers support for credentialed professionals trained in our foundational courses, helping them apply the attachment-based approach in practice.
- [Solutions to Sleep](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/recordings/sleep): Solutions to Sleep is a three-part webinar panel series offering follow-up support to Dr. Neufeld’s free presentation, Getting Bedtime Right.
- [Campus Member Centre](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/campus-member-centre): Continue learning with the Neufeld Institute Campus Member Centre. Membership includes ongoing access to past courses, resources, and exclusive content.
- [Nourished](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/books/nourished): Learn how food and connection are inseparable in parenting in Deborah MacNamara’s Nourished, based on Gordon Neufeld’s attachment approach.
- [Support Our Mission](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/support): Support the Neufeld Institute, a Canadian non-profit charity. Your donation helps sustain courses and resources based on Dr. Gordon Neufeld’s developmental approach.
- [The Natural Roots of Empathy](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/natural-roots-of-empathy): Neufeld reveals how true empathy is actually a natural fruit of healthy development that we are unwittingly spoiling by pushing for results prematurely.

- [Reaching Troubled Kids](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/reaching-troubled-kids): Neufeld reveals a common denominator at the root of most troubles, and in so doing, opens surprising doors for change.
- [Scheduled Class: Making Sense of Aggression](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/classes/aggression): Aggression problems are deeply rooted in instinct and emotion. Join our 5-week scheduled class where Gordon Neufeld uncovers the roots of aggression and outlines steps to addressing them.
- [Scheduled Class: Making Sense of Marriage](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/classes/marriage): Join Gordon Neufeld's take on coupling is refreshing and revealing. A 10-week scheduled class with surprising insights coming from his comprehensive model of attachment.
- [Scheduled Class: Neufeld's Model of Attachment](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/classes/attachment-model): 
This course unfolds Neufeld's ground-breaking model of attachment — the result of decades of synthesis, inspired by the physical and natural sciences, and built upon the most recent understandings of the brain, emotion and development.
- [Becoming Attached](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/intensive3): Six roots of attachment take center stage. Gordon Neufeld’s Intensive III explores adult focus and the theory behind his attachment-based model.
- [Power to Parent II](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/power-to-parent-2): Neufeld expands on what children really need from their parents in order to grow them into their full potential.
- [Bullies: Their Making and Unmaking](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/bullies): Gordon Neufeld's insights as to the birthplace of the bully instinct provides hope for finding a way through, whether at home or at school or in treatment.
- [The Resilience Riddle](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/the-resilience-riddle): We all have the potential to grow from our wounds. Neufeld explains why resilience often falters—and how to raise children who truly recover and thrive.
- [What About Me? Reflections on Growing Up as Adults](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/what-about-me): Free keynote by Dr. Gordon Neufeld: What About Me? explores adult growth, guilt, and fulfillment in parenting and teaching. Two-part 1.5-hour recording.
- [Adjunct & Associate Faculty](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-team/adjunct-associate): Meet the Neufeld Institute’s adjunct and associate faculty—educators with deep expertise in the approach, still supporting our mission in diverse roles.
- [New Zealand Speaking Tour ](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/neufeld-institute-events/new-zealand): Join Gordon Neufeld on his New Zealand Speaking Tour 2026
- [Our sleep studies certificate program](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/sleep-studies): The Neufeld Institute Sleep Studies program equips professionals to address children’s sleep and bedtime issues through an attachment-based approach.
- [IDEA Centre](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/idea-centre): The Neufeld Institute IDEA Centre helps educators and Caregivers apply developmental science in classrooms and learning communities to support children and youth worldwide.
- [Read the First Chapter of Hold On to Your Kids for Free](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/books/hotyk-chapterone): Download the first chapter of Hold On to Your Kids by Dr. Gordon Neufeld. Explore the book’s core ideas on attachment, parenting, and the parent-child relationship.
- [Teachability Factor](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/teachability-factor): Although teaching is getting harder, Neufeld shows a way through by harnessing the natural but invisible power of attachment. 
- [Editorials by Dr. Deborah MacNamara ](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/deborah-macnamara): Read editorials by Dr. Deborah MacNamara on parenting, attachment, resilience, play, and family life—insights rooted in the Neufeld developmental approach.
- [Reclaiming Our Students](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/books/reclaiming-our-students): Reclaiming Our Students by Beach & Strijack, with a foreword by Gordon Neufeld, shows how teachers can reconnect with anxious, aggressive, or shut-down students using relational tools.
- [Making Sense of Marriage](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/making-sense-of-marriage): Neufeld's take on coupling is refreshing and revealing, with surprising insights coming from his comprehensive model of attachment.
- [Making Sense of Therapy](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/making-sense-of-therapy): Neufeld distills the therapeutic process to its essence, revealing the essential elements of healing and recovery. 
- [Scheduled Class: The Separation Complex](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/classes/intensive2): Join Neufeld Intensive II: The Separation Complex, starting Oct 15, 2026. A 17-week scheduled class on separation, development, and effective intervention.
- [The Attachment Puzzle](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/attachment-puzzle): Gordon Neufeld distills the science of relationship to its essence and then explores the implications for working with children and youth. 
- [Dutch Language Program](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages/dutch): The Dutch Neufeld Institute program offers courses for parents and professionals, in-person and online, plus a Dutch translation of Hold On to Your Kids.
- [Art and Science of Home Education](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/home-education): Home-school advantage explained. Gordon Neufeld reveals why attachment-based learning offers children a unique edge in growth and development.
- [Spanish Language Program](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages/spanish): The Neufeld Institute Spanish program, led by Marcela Escalera, offers parent education courses and resources, supported by Hold On to Your Kids in Spanish.
- [Professional Associates](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-team/professional-associates): Meet the Neufeld Institute’s professional associates—experienced practitioners who trained with the Institute and continue to support its mission.
- [ Play Into Practice - September 2026](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/neufeld-institute-events/sep26-play-into-practice): Join Tamara Strijack’s 1-year online program to deepen your use of play in practice. Complete the Play & Emotion course first to prepare and qualify.
- [Art and Science of Transplanting Children](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/transplanting-children): Gordon Neufeld explores how changes in caregiving impact a child’s attachment roots—and how to support healthy development through transition.
- [Language Program Directors](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-team/language-program-directors): Meet the Neufeld Institute Language Program Directors—personally trained by Dr. Gordon Neufeld to bring the attachment-based approach to their cultures.
- [Play & Attachment](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/play-and-attachment): Play science meets attachment theory. Gordon Neufeld shares how this integration reveals Nature’s plan—and how we can best support it.
- [The Separation Complex](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/intensive2): Separation shapes behaviour. Gordon Neufeld’s Intensive II reveals how understanding early dynamics opens the path to meaningful intervention.
- [Study Guide](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/books/hotyk-study-guide): Download the free study guide for Hold On to Your Kids, featuring chapter questions and resources to support book groups and shared learning.
- [Editorials by Dr. Gordon Neufeld](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/gordon-neufeld): Read editorials by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, offering insights on child development, attachment, and parenting through the Neufeld Institute’s developmental lens.
- [Course Finder - by query](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/by-query): Find Neufeld Institute courses by query. Browse common questions and explore recommended courses that address your specific parenting or professional interests.
- [About our Parent Education](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/parent-education): Parent education at the Neufeld Institute offers courses and resources grounded in developmental science to help parents meet children’s attachment needs.
- [Adolescence & Sexuality](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/adolescence2): Understanding the sexualization of attachment is key to supporting healthy sexuality and relationships.
- [Administrative staff](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-team/admin-staff): Our dedicated staff share the Neufeld Institute’s vision and are deeply familiar with both the attachment-based approach and our organizational workings.
- [The Alarm Spectrum](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/alarm-spectrum): Dr. Neufeld sheds light on the most profound and perplexing riddle of our time, revealing a common root to a diverse array of common symptoms and syndromes.
- [Getting Bedtime Right](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/getting-bedtime-right): Making sense of bedtime and its challenges with a focus on implications & practices.
- [Programs in other languages](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages): Neufeld Institute programs are available in many languages, with faculty trained by Dr. Gordon Neufeld to adapt the attachment-based approach to each culture.
- [Becoming the Answer Our Children Need](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/neufeld-institute-events/becoming)
- [Making Sense of Discipline](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/making-sense-of-discipline): Neufeld answers the question of how to impose order without doing harm to individuality, relationship or development.
- [Course Facilitators at Large](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-team/course-facilitators-at-large): Meet Neufeld Institute course facilitators at large—trained and approved to guide courses locally and online, supporting the spread of the attachment-based approach.
- [Neufeld Institute Course Support Team](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-team/course-support): Our hand-picked Course Support Team has studied extensively in Dr. Neufeld’s approach and is dedicated to supporting our course students.
- [Neufeld`s Five-Step Model of Emotional Maturation](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/five-step-model): Five-step model of maturation. Gordon Neufeld explains how growth unfolds psychologically—and why many remain stuck in emotional immaturity.
- [Making Sense of Anxiety](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/making-sense-of-anxiety): Anxiety is on the rise. Gordon Neufeld explains its roots, showing how making sense of anxiety helps us make sense of ourselves and find a way through.
- [Neufeld Institute Children’s Book List](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/books/childrens-book-list): Discover 350 handpicked titles in the Neufeld Institute’s attachment-based children’s book list—organized by themes that reflect Gordon Neufeld’s approach.
- [Scheduled Class: Making Sense of Hypersensitivity](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/classes/hypersensitivity): Join Making Sense of Hypersensitivity. A faculty-led course featuring Gordon Neufeld’s teachings on causes and consequences of sensory overload in the brain and its role in a spectrum of syndromes, including autism as well as attention problems.
- [Courses by budget](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/by-budget): Browse Neufeld Institute courses by budget and time commitment—from shorter introductions to in-depth studies of the attachment-based developmental approach.
- [Making Sense of Hypersensitivity](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/making-sense-of-hypersensitivity): The roots of hypersensitivity are revealed with profound implications for treatment.
- [Russian Language Program](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/languages/russian): The Russian Neufeld Institute program, led by Olga Pisaryk, offers nearly the full course catalogue in Russian, with Intensives I & II delivered online.
- [Play and Emotion](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/play-and-emotion): Play and emotion are deeply linked. Gordon Neufeld reveals how this connection helps explain behaviour, development, and emotional well-being.
- [Roots of Attachment](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/roots-of-attachment): How does a child’s capacity for deep relationship develop? In this illuminating webinar, Dr. Gordon Neufeld lays out his six-stage model of attachment.
- [Resources](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources): Explore resources from Dr. Gordon Neufeld and faculty, including free guides, books, and recordings that share the attachment-based developmental approach.
- [Making Sense of Preschoolers](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/making-sense-of-preschoolers): Developmental psychologist Gordon Neufeld guides us into the inner world of young children to set the stage for connecting through play.
- [Science of Emotion](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/science-of-emotion): Neufeld joins the dots to reveal emotion as the heart of the matter, not only in well-being but also the realization of human potential in most every arena. 
- [Scheduled Class: Making Sense of Kids](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/classes/intensive1): Join the Neufeld Intensive I scheduled class starting Oct 9, 2026. A 22-week guided learning experience on attachment, maturation, and vulnerability.
- [Neufeld Institute Faculty](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-team/faculty): Our English faculty come from diverse backgrounds and have completed a two-year internship with Dr. Neufeld. All actively teach and apply the Neufeld Approach.
- [Neufeld’s Traffic Circle Model of Frustration](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/traffic-circle-model-of-frustration): Frustration is one of our most profound and powerful emotions, and probably one of the least understood as well. 
- [Webinars, Conferences and Recordings - Neufeld Institute](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/recordings): In addition to our courses, we offer recordings of webinars, conference keynotes, and special presentations—making it easy to learn from Dr. Gordon Neufeld and faculty at your own pace.
- [Contact Us](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/contact-us): Contact the Neufeld Institute with your questions or inquiries. Our faculty and staff will direct your message to the right team member and reply promptly.
- [Who We Are](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/who-we-are): The Neufeld Institute, a Canadian non-profit, offers 30+ courses in attachment-based developmental psychology for parents, educators, and professionals worldwide.
- [Rest, Play, Grow](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/books/rest-play-grow): Based on Gordon Neufeld’s approach, Deborah MacNamara’s Rest, Play, Grow offers a guide to understanding and raising young children with connection.
- [Neufeld`s Model of Attachment](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/model-of-attachment): Neufeld’s science-based attachment model aligns with natural intuition and offers profound insight for parenting, education, and treatment.
- [Course Catalogue](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses): Explore Neufeld Institute courses based on Dr. Gordon Neufeld’s attachment-based developmental approach—designed for parents, educators, and professionals.
- [Making Sense of Counterwill](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/making-sense-of-counterwill): Neufeld reveals the instinct to counter the will of others as both natural and purposeful, even when troublesome when dealing with it in our children.
- [Power to Parent I](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/power-to-parent-1): Attachment to parents is key. Gordon Neufeld explains why right relationship matters—and how to cultivate it for a child’s optimal development.
- [Courses by role](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/by-role): Over the years we have handled hundreds of queries and so list the most common ones here in the hopes that there is a statement that reflects your interest.
- [Making Sense of Adolescence](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/adolescence1): Growing older is no guarantee of growing up. The seven rites of passage facing adolescents typically require adult help. 
- [Relationship Matters - The challenges of parenting and teaching today’s children](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/relationship-matters): Free video presentation by Dr. Gordon Neufeld on the challenges of parenting today and the vital role of adult-child relationships.
- [Parent Consultants](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-team/parent-consultants): The Neufeld Institute parent consultants are trained professionals who help parents apply the attachment-based approach to real-life parenting challenges.
- [Our Team](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-team): Behind the Neufeld Institute is a dedicated team bringing the Neufeld Approach to life worldwide—helping others make sense of children through attachment.
- [Making Sense of Aggression](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/making-sense-of-aggression): Gordon Neufeld’s ‘traffic circle model’ of aggression explains its roots and offers practical guidance for effective intervention at any age.
- [Making Sense of Attention Problems](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/making-sense-of-attention-problems): Neufeld identifies the reversible roots of most attention problems, offering a way forward that empowers both parents and teachers.
- [Books](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/books): Discover books by Gordon Neufeld and faculty that explore attachment theory, parenting, and child development through a developmental lens.
- [Alpha Children](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/alpha-children): Gordon Neufeld clarifies the often-misunderstood role of hierarchy in attachment, opening the way to healthier and more natural relationships.
- [Making Sense of Kids](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/intensive1): Intensive I lays the foundation for Gordon Neufeld’s approach, equipping participants to understand children through attachment, maturation, and emotion.
- [Our Approach](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/about/our-approach): Attachment-based developmental approach by Dr. Gordon Neufeld: an evidence-informed model integrating attachment theory, psychology, and decades of practice.
- [Events](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/neufeld-institute-events): Join Neufeld Institute events featuring Dr. Gordon Neufeld and faculty. Explore upcoming talks, webinars, and presentations worldwide.
- [Courses by category](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/our-courses/by-category): Browse Neufeld Institute courses by category. Use our Course Finder to explore programs based on your needs and choose the right learning path for you.
- [Editorials](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials): Read expert editorials from Dr. Gordon Neufeld and faculty, offering guidance on parenting, emotions, and human development.
- [Classes - Neufeld Insitute](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/classes): Join Neufeld Institute scheduled live classes for guided learning with faculty support, Q&A sessions, study resources, and a 12-month campus study pass.
- [Hold On to Your Kids](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/books/hold-on-to-your-kids): Gordon Neufeld’s parenting classic explains why parents must matter more than peers, even through adolescence.
- [Free Lectures, Keynotes and Webinars](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free): Access 15+ hours of free lectures and webinars from Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Neufeld Institute faculty on attachment, parenting, and development.
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## Blog

- [Ukraine's displaced children: an unfolding crisis of well-being ](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/displaced-children) by Gordon Neufeld (Jul 19, 2026): Dr. Gordon Neufeld explains why displaced Ukrainian children are failing to adapt — and what two natural responses, relationship and emotional play, can reverse that decline.
- [Sirens Among Us: what’s luring our children away](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/blog/sirens-among-us) by Gordon Neufeld (Jun 30, 2026): An exploration of how modern technology and the artificial intimacy of AI act as sirens, luring children away from vital attachment relationships.
- [Restoring the Original AI: The Importance of Attachment Intelligence in Modern Times](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/restoring-the-original-ai-attachment-intelligence) by Heather Ferguson (Jun 22, 2026): As artificial chatbots and social media compete for children's attention, Neufeld Institute faculty member Heather Ferguson examines what healthy attachment requires — and what threatens it.
- [INSIGHT vs DIAGNOSIS re hypersensitivity and immaturity](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/insight-vs-diagnosis) by Gordon Neufeld (May 22, 2026): Are we over-diagnosing immaturity? Dr. Gordon Neufeld explores how true psychological insight helps us support hypersensitivity better than medical labels.
- [Some thoughts from Gordon on gardening and parenting](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/gordon-neufeld-gardening-parenting) by Gordon Neufeld (Dec 11, 2025): Rather than sculpting children through consequences or treating them as blank slates to be filled, Gordon Neufeld shows how secure attachment roots allow growth to unfold.
- [The Power and Vulnerability of Invitation // by Michele Maurer](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/power-vulnerability-invitation) by Michele Maurer (Dec 11, 2025): Drawing on Gordon Neufeld’s attachment lens, Michele Maurer, Neufeld Insitute Faculty explores how holiday invitations, belonging, and cascading care shape family and community life.
- [Feed me: Cravings, candy and screen time](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/feed-me-cravings-candy-and-screen-time) by Tamara Strijack (Oct 30, 2025): What are our children really craving? Tamara Strijack invites us to see their hunger for connection and the nourishment that comes through play and presence.
- [Reflections on Stuckness](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorals/reflections-on-stuckness) by Gordon Neufeld (Oct 2, 2025): Stuckness is a hidden yet common issue in childhood. Gordon Neufeld outlines the signs and causes of Stuckness, and how adults can make a difference.
- [Coming to Alpha Consciousness in Parenting](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/coming-to-alpha-consciousness) by Lisa Weiner (Sep 6, 2025): When her son grew bossy after Grandma’s visit, Lisa discovered how seeing alpha and dependent roles differently changed her parenting.
- [Long Live Shyness!](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/long-live-shyness) by Gordon Neufeld (May 25, 2025): Gordon Neufeld reframes shyness as a natural gift of attachment, not a disorder. Learn why shyness matters, how it differs from social anxiety, and what parents and teachers can do to protect it.
- [Neufeld on When Attachments Fail](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/when-attachments-fail-some-new-years-ruminations) by Gordon Neufeld (Jan 8, 2025): What if the key to moving forward is learning how to grieve? Gordon Neufeld reflects on loss, attachment, and why sadness may be the path to healing.
- [The Light of Connection: food, light, and the shoe pile	](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-light-of-connection) by Lisa Weiner (Dec 5, 2024): Lisa Weiner reflects on how genuine connection can light the way through fear, stress, and uncertainty — especially in the lives of our children.
- [Restless: What’s behind the stories of anxiety, attention problems and adrenaline-seeking?	](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/restless-whats-behind-the-stories-of-anxiety-attention-problems-and-adrenaline-seeking) by Tamara Strijack (Oct 15, 2024): What do anxiety, attention problems, bullying, and adrenaline-seeking all have in common? Although these stories seem to come from different places, there is a shared thread between them.
- [Neufeld Rants on Empathy](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/gordons-rant-on-empathy) by Gordon Neufeld (Sep 10, 2024): Dr. Gordon Neufeld challenges common misunderstandings about empathy, revealing its true developmental roots and what it really takes to grow a caring child.
- [Creating Safe Spaces: How Pretend Play Supports Child Development](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-art-of-creating-space-the-magic-of-pretend) by Tamara Strijack (Jun 19, 2024): Tamara Strijack explores how Mister Rogers and Mister Dressup created a safe space for children to explore, imagine, and express.
- [Hatching Resilience](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/hatching-resilience) by Heather Ferguson (May 8, 2024): Discover how a family’s chicken farming journey teaches resilience and emotional strength through experiences of vulnerability and loss.
- [Neufeld on Why I Capitalize Nature](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/why-i-capitalize-nature) by Gordon Neufeld (Feb 28, 2024): Dr. Gordon Neufeld shares why he capitalizes “Nature” — honouring its guiding role in human development, healing, and the unfolding of potential.
- [Neufeld on Endless Beginnings](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/gordon-on-endless-beginnings) by Gordon Neufeld (Jan 9, 2024): Dr. Gordon Neufeld reflects on the nature of fresh starts, the importance of pausing, and why new beginnings are rooted in something deeper than doing.
- [Holding on Throughout the Parenting Journey](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/our-heart-rope-is-strong) by Heather Ferguson (Nov 29, 2023): The invisible yet powerful “heart rope” keeps us connected to our children — especially through times of separation and change.
- [Finding our own Expressive Play 	](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/an-invitation) by Tamara Strijack (Oct 31, 2023): Tamara Strijack offers a gentle invitation to pause, feel, and make room for connection — reminding us of the healing power of presence in a fast-paced world.
- [If Yellow Was the Colour of Playfulness](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/if-yellow-was-the-colour-of-playfulness) by Tamara Strijack (Sep 6, 2023): Tamara Strijack reflects on losing and rediscovering playfulness through parenting, creativity, and everyday life. A gentle reminder of why play matters at every age.
- [It All Depends](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/it-all-depends) by Gordon Neufeld (Sep 4, 2023): Dr. Gordon Neufeld explores why dependence is central to child development and relationships, urging parents and teachers to invite children to truly depend on them.
- [Rethinking Dependence	](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/rethinking-dependence) by Gordon Neufeld (Apr 4, 2023): Dr. Gordon Neufeld challenges the push for early independence in children, highlighting the wisdom of dependence and how attachment fosters true growth.
- [Introduction to the Slovenian Translation of Hold On To Your Kids // By Urška Žugelj](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/introduction-in-slovenian-translation-of-hold-on-to-your-kids) by Guest Contributor (Jan 23, 2023): Discover Dr. Urška Žugelj’s introduction to the Slovenian edition of Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté, exploring attachment, peer orientation, and the power of parent–child connection.
- [Holiday Traditions](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/holiday-traditions) by Lisa Weiner (Dec 12, 2022): Stories from Lisa Weiner, Tamara Strijack, Bree Jordan, and Karen Bollman show how intentional family rituals and holiday traditions nurture attachment and lasting connection.
- [Radical Coming Alongside // By Celena Krahn](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/coming-alongside-our-adolescents) by Guest Contributor (Nov 21, 2022): Celena Krahn shares her journey of parenting through adolescence, exploring how opening her heart and meeting her son where he is can transform conflict into connection.
- [Reflections from Gordon on the Mystery of Coupling](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/reflections-by-gordon-on-the-mystery-of-coupling) by Gordon Neufeld (Nov 18, 2022): Gordon Neufeld explores the mystery of coupling, revealing how marriage and relationships make sense through an attachment-based lens.
- [The Untold Story of Frustration in 18 Minutes](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-untold-story-of-frustration-in-18-minutes) by Gordon Neufeld (Sep 6, 2022): Gordon Neufeld reveals the untold story of frustration — how it shapes attachment, brain function, and emotional development.
- [The Mud Puddle and a Slug Called Finley](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-mud-puddle-and-a-slug-called-finley) by Tamara Strijack (May 5, 2022): Tamara Strijack reflects on childhood wonder, mud puddle protests, and a slug named Finley — showing how nature nurtures growth and resilience.
- [Glimpses of the Hidden Work of Play](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/glimpses-of-the-hidden-work-of-play) by Lisa Weiner (Apr 22, 2022): Stories from Neufeld Institute faculty on the healing power of play in parenting — supporting teens, easing anxiety, and restoring well-being.
- [Saltwater Tears: a personal reflection // by Genevieve Schreier](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/saltwater-tears-a-personal-reflection) by Guest Contributor (Feb 22, 2022): Genevieve Schreier reflects on loss, grief, and the inevitability of endings — through ocean waves, children’s play, and the sandcastles we build and let go.
- [Reflections on the Passage of Time](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/reflections-on-the-passage-of-time) by Tamara Strijack (Jan 10, 2022): Discover how play, presence, and natural rhythms can transform our relationship with time, offering moments of timelessness and deeper connection.
- [Togetherness Rituals](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/togetherness-rituals) by Lisa Weiner (Dec 6, 2021): Explore how family rituals during the holidays nurture attachment, play, and lasting memories, with insights from Neufeld Institute faculty.
- [The Two-Way Magic of a Bridging Playlist	](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-two-way-magic-of-a-bridging-playlist) by Sara Easterly (Nov 1, 2021): Discover how bedtime music can bridge separation, soften hearts, and support parent-child connection in the Neufeld approach to sleep.
- [There’s a Hole in My Bucket](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/theres-a-hole-in-my-bucket) by Gordon Neufeld (Oct 4, 2021): Gordon Neufeld reflects on futility, attachment, and the challenges of bedtime — where sadness, connection, and letting go come together.
- [Leading Our Children Back to School](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/leading-our-children-back-to-school) by Deborah MacNamara (Sep 7, 2021): Discover how attachment, play, and emotional expression help children adapt to school transitions and new realities with less anxiety.
- [Adding the Wisdom of Play to the Wisdom of Trauma](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/adding-the-wisdom-of-play-to-the-wisdom-of-trauma) by Tamara Strijack (Jun 29, 2021): Tamara Strijack explores how play helps heal trauma and restore connection, expanding on Gabor Maté’s insights from The Wisdom of Trauma.
- [90 Days of Sunday: Reflections on a Season of Slow](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/90-days-of-sunday-reflections-on-a-season-of-slow) by Tamara Strijack (May 25, 2021): Tamara Strijack reflects on her sabbatical — 90 days of slowing down, unplugging from technology, and rediscovering rhythm, rest, and permission through the Neufeld lens of nature, timelessness, and play.
- [Playing with Alarm](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/playing-with-alarm) by Lisa Weiner (Apr 26, 2021): Lisa Weiner explores Gordon Neufeld’s insight into children’s alarm systems and how play — through safe scares, courage games, and gentle sadness — can help kids process anxiety, restlessness, and risky behavior.
- [The Two Essential Invitations](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-two-essential-invitations) by Lisa Weiner (Mar 11, 2021): Lisa Weiner reflects on Dr. Gordon Neufeld’s teaching that children need two essential invitations: the deep attachment of unconditional presence and the freedom to become fully themselves.
- [Where Has My Sweet Child Gone?! The Challenge of Holding On to Our Young Teens // Robin Brooks-Sherriff](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/where-has-my-sweet-child-gone-the-challenge-of-holding-on-to-our-young-teens) by Guest Contributor (Jan 9, 2021): Robin Brooks-Sherriff explores the emotional ups and downs of early adolescence and how parents can stay connected, guide with grace, and hold on through the turbulence of the teen years.
- [Three Generations in the Kitchen](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/three-generations-in-the-kitchen) by Darlene Denis-Friske (Dec 14, 2020): Darlene Denis-Friske reflects on Christmas traditions shaped by her late mother. Through laughter, meals, and rituals passed down, her family finds comfort, grief, and connection across generations.
- [Traditions: Now More Than Ever](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/traditions-now-more-than-ever) by Lisa Weiner (Dec 1, 2020): Neufeld Institute voices, including Lisa Weiner, reflect on how beloved holiday traditions carry comfort and attachment. Even in the midst of Covid, rituals of family and connection help us adapt with warmth and resilience.
- [HELP! Adolescent Angst Then and Now](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/help-adolescent-angst-then-and-now) by Tamara Strijack (Nov 2, 2020): Tamara Strijack reflects on her own teenage angst and her daughter’s, showing how parents can create safety for adolescents to feel, stumble, and grow through life’s messiness.
- [Of Frogs and Ferns: creating conditions for natural learning](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/of-frogs-and-ferns-creating-conditions-for-natural-learning) by Tamara Strijack (Sep 28, 2020): Tamara Strijack shares how connection with the natural world opened a child’s curiosity and emotions, showing that true learning grows from safety, attachment, and exploration rather than performance.
- [Could Home Education Be More Than Just a Backup Plan?](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/could-home-education-be-more-than-just-a-backup-plan) by Gordon Neufeld (Sep 3, 2020): What do children really need to become fully human and humane, civilized and cultured. And secondly, how does school fit into these irreducible needs, for children in general and for one’s own child in particular.
- [What to do with Frustration](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/what-to-do-with-frustration) by Lisa Weiner (Jul 2, 2020): Lisa Weiner shares how to help kids release frustration safely through play and expression, drawing on Gordon Neufeld’s approach.
- [Confronting Racism — A Call for Reflection](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/confronting-racism-a-call-for-reflection) by Gordon Neufeld (Jun 16, 2020): Gordon Neufeld explores the roots of racism in attachment polarization, the role of emotional immaturity, and how parents, teachers, and leaders can foster true growth toward equality.
- [Relationship, Room, and Rest for the Cooped-Up Adolescent](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/relationship-room-and-rest-for-the-cooped-up-adolescent) by Darlene Denis-Friske (Apr 30, 2020): How parents can support teens through alarm, frustration, and isolation by prioritizing relationship, giving room for emotions, and fostering rest.
- [When Bringing School Home, Don’t Sacrifice the “Home”](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/when-bringing-school-home-dont-sacrifice-the-home) by Gordon Neufeld (Apr 16, 2020): Gordon Neufeld explains why, in homeschooling, a child’s sense of home and attachment with parents must come before academics.
- [Taking Care of Children in Alarming Times](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/taking-care-of-children-in-alarming-times) by Gordon Neufeld (Mar 29, 2020): Gordon Neufeld on helping children feel safe in uncertain times — through attachment, play, and simple non-alarming scripts that guide and protect.
- [Gardeners at Heart: Growing Emotional Health in our Children](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/gardeners-at-heart-growing-emotional-health-in-our-children) by Tamara Strijack (Feb 16, 2020): Exploring how safe relationships and creative play nurture children’s emotional health. Insights from Neufeld Institute faculty Hannah Beach and Tamara Strijack.
- [Dumbo’s Barbaric Yawp](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/dumbos-barbaric-yawp) by Jule Epp (Jan 20, 2020): Jule Epp reflects on balcony talks with her son about autism, normality, and the tension between fitting in and being true to oneself.
- [Wishing You An Ish-Ful New Year!](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/wishing-you-an-ish-ful-new-year) by Tamara Strijack (Jan 5, 2020): Tamara Strijack reflects on the pressure to “get it right” and invites us to embrace creativity, mistakes, and playful exploration instead.
- [‘Tis the Season for Sad Music!](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/tis-the-season-for-sad-music) by Gordon Neufeld (Dec 9, 2019): Gordon Neufeld explores how sad music helps us process hidden emotions, restore balance, and rediscover joy during the holiday season.
- [Yes. I Made a Mistake // by Jane Jewitt](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/yes-i-made-a-mistake) by Guest Contributor (Dec 1, 2019): Parenting is messy. Jane Jewitt reflects on mistakes, identity, and the challenge of truly seeing our children while staying deeply connected.
- [When Fear Knocks at the Door	// by Genevieve Brabant and Mathieu Lyons](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/when-fear-knocks-at-the-door) by Guest Contributor (Oct 24, 2019): Genevieve Brabant and Mathieu Lyons' son Nathan taught them that fear is part of healthy development. This Halloween, they focus on attachment, safety, and letting courage grow in time.
- [Parenting by Duty or by Choice // by Elana Strobinsky](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/parenting-by-duty-or-by-choice) by Guest Contributor (Sep 24, 2019): Explore the difference between parenting by duty and by choice, and how conscious presence fosters children’s emotional growth and parent well-being.
- [School Days: Remembering the Connections that Count](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/school-days-remembering-the-connections-that-count) by Lisa Weiner (Sep 15, 2019): Lisa Weiner explains why shyness and school protest are normal attachment instincts, and how parents can support children through connection, not pressure.
- [Bouncing Back After School: heart hygiene for our children](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/bouncing-back-after-school-heart-hygiene-for-our-children) by Gordon Neufeld (Sep 3, 2019): Gordon Neufeld explains how children’s feelings freeze under school stress and why safe after-school moments are vital for resilience and attachment.
- [Behind the Scenes: The Magic of Music](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/behind-the-scenes-the-magic-of-music) by Tamara Strijack (Jun 16, 2019): Discover how music and master teachers unlock children’s voices, nurture emotional growth, and create safe spaces for self-expression.
- [Resilience: Embracing the Emotional Journey](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/resilience-embracing-the-emotional-journey) by Deborah MacNamara (May 6, 2019): Discover how true resilience grows from emotions, not suppression. Gordon Neufeld & Deborah MacNamara share science-based parenting insights.
- [Captain Starfish & Other Great Books for Kids](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/captain-starfish-other-great-books-for-kids) by Sara Easterly (Feb 7, 2019): Discover the Neufeld Institute’s 2019 list of 200+ recommended children’s books — curated for parents, teachers, and professionals through an attachment lens.
- [An Unusual New Year’s Greeting](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/an-unusual-new-years-greeting) by Gordon Neufeld (Jan 17, 2019): Gordon Neufeld reflects on happiness, rest, and the science of play, sharing why true playfulness may be the missing key to well-being for us and our children.
- [The Invitation](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-invitation) by Jule Epp (Dec 9, 2018): Discover a mother’s story of choosing attachment over approval and how the principle of invitation can unlock potential in children with autism.
- [Reflections on Autism and Hypersensitivity](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/reflections-on-autism-and-hypersensitivity) by Jule Epp (Jun 19, 2018): Discover insights on autism and hypersensitivity that show how attachment and play can support growth, resilience, and emotional connection.
- [A Reason to Ski](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/a-reason-to-ski) by Sara Easterly (Feb 28, 2018): Sara Easterly shares how a reluctant ski trip turned into a moment of connection with her daughters, showing the power of choosing presence over chores.
- [Reflections on Making Sense of Kids](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/reflections-on-making-sense-of-kids) by Gordon Neufeld (Jan 17, 2018): Gordon Neufeld reflects on why insight is essential in parenting and teaching today, exploring intuition, attachment, and the challenge of making sense of children.
- [Lessons from the Farm: Finding Rest](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/lessons-from-the-farm-finding-rest) by Tamara Strijack (Nov 16, 2017): Through Poquito the rescue dog, Tamara Strijack reflects on attachment, separation, and how children learn to rest when trust and care come first.
- [Playing Matchmaker: Cultivating Relationships with Teachers and Adults Who Care for Our Kids](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/playing-matchmaker) by Deborah MacNamara (Sep 14, 2017): Children thrive when parents foster bonds with teachers and caring adults. Learn how matchmaking builds a secure attachment network.
- [Lessons from the Farm: Defensive Blindness](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/lessons-from-the-farm-defensive-blindness) by Tamara Strijack (May 23, 2017): Tamara Strijack explores defensive blindness — what an alpaca’s haircut reveals about how children protect themselves from what’s too hard to face.
- [How the Mother in Us Is Born](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/how-the-mother-in-us-is-born) by Deborah MacNamara (May 13, 2017): Motherhood begins long before a child is born. Deborah MacNamara reveals how play awakens the instincts that guide us as mothers.
- [Parenting Myths: Can a child be too attached?](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/can-a-child-be-too-attached-to-their-parent) by Deborah MacNamara (Apr 11, 2017): Understand how emotional closeness with parents fosters independence.
- [Could you bounce back?](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/could-you-bounce-back) by Gordon Neufeld (Mar 15, 2017): Why do some recover from adversity while others falter? Gordon Neufeld explains resilience as the key to healing, growth, and emotional well-being.
- [Behaviour Management Systems — More Harm than Good? — Part II](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/behaviour-management-systems-more-harm-than-good-part-ii) by Eva de Gosztonyi (Feb 23, 2017): Digital behaviour apps promise quick fixes, but Eva de Gosztonyi shows how they fuel anxiety, harm attachment, and disrupt learning.
- [Behaviour Management Systems — More Harm than Good? — Part I](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/behaviour-management-using-agenda) by Eva de Gosztonyi (Jan 19, 2017): Eva de Gosztonyi shares why daily behaviour charts can harm children and families — and how attachment-based approaches better support development.
- [Where has all the maturity gone, and why have so few noticed its lack?](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/where-has-all-the-maturity-gone) by Gordon Neufeld (Jan 11, 2017): What happened to maturity? Gordon Neufeld explores immaturity in society, attachment, and how parents can provide the conditions for children to grow.
- [The Surprising Secret Behind Kids’ Resistance and Opposition](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-surprising-secret-behind-kids-resistance-and-opposition) by Deborah MacNamara (Dec 29, 2016): Why do children push back? Counterwill explains kids’ resistance and how parents can lead with connection instead of coercion.
- [Lessons from the Farm: A Matter of Instinct](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/lessons-from-the-farm-a-matter-of-instinct) by Tamara Strijack (Nov 29, 2016): Tamara Strijack explores life with Pippin, her herding, shoe-chewing puppy, which reminds her of how natural instincts drive both animals and children. With patience and creativity, we can guide their impulses, keep them safe, and trust nature’s plan as they grow.
- [Gymnastics, Frustrations, Tears … and Muffins // by Mathieu Lyons](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/gymnastics-frustrations-tears-and-muffins) by Guest Contributor (Nov 15, 2016): Watching his four-year-old daughter Emma struggle in her first gymnastics class was heartbreaking for Mathieu Lyons. Over muffins and hugs, he learned how to give her space to face frustration, find her tears, and feel safe again in his care.
- [Grieving in the Midst of Our Children](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/grieving-in-the-midst-of-our-children) by Sara Easterly (Nov 9, 2016): Sara Easterly reflects on crying through school drop-off after the U.S. election, showing her daughters that grief is part of caring — and that soft hearts can stay strong in family life.
- [The Vulnerability Problem of the Bully](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-vulnerability-problem-of-the-bully) by Deborah MacNamara (Oct 18, 2016): Bullies act fearless, but behind hardened hearts lies lost vulnerability. Understanding this root helps us see why punishment fails — and how caring relationships can soften even the hardest hearts.
- [Lessons from the Farm: A Story of Alpha and Alarm](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/lessons-from-the-farm) by Tamara Strijack (Oct 16, 2016): An alpaca’s alarm teaches us about children in alpha mode, why insecurity fuels anxiety, and how adults can restore safety.
- [From "The Dungeon" to the Desired: One School’s Incredible Transformation](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/from-the-dungeon-to-the-desired-one-schools-incredible-transformation) by Sara Easterly (Sep 20, 2016): How one Quebec elementary school went from “The Dungeon” to a thriving community through attachment-based practices, caring adults, and parent partnerships.
- [Parenting in a Digital Age: United Nations Address for the Global Day of Parents	](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/parenting-in-a-digital-age) by Deborah MacNamara (Sep 13, 2016): A UN address on raising children in a digital world: why attachment and relationships — not devices — are what kids need most to grow and thrive.
- [The Roots …](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-roots) by Darlene Denis-Friske (Aug 2, 2016): Darlene Denis-Friske reflects on how focusing on the parent-child relationship builds deep roots that help children weather life’s inevitable challenges.
- [Softening the Hardened Heart](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/softening-the-hardened-heart) by Deborah MacNamara (Jul 18, 2016): Explore how emotional defenses form — and how warmth and connection can help them melt.
- [Press Pause and Play](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/press-pause-and-play) by Tamara Strijack (Jun 28, 2016): Summer offers a chance to pause digital distractions and rediscover real play. Tamara Strijack reflects on why children and adults need unstructured space to grow and connect.
- [Parenting in Stressful Times — Part II: Holding On During the Rebound	](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/parenting-in-stressful-times-part-ii-holding-on-during-the-rebound) by Eva de Gosztonyi (Jun 2, 2016): Eva de Gosztonyi shares how children may seem resilient after disaster or loss, but that emotions often surface later. By holding space for alarm, frustration, and tears, parents can guide healing.
- [Parenting in Stressful Times — Part I: How to be Your Child’s “Best Bet”](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/parenting-in-stressful-times-part1) by Eva de Gosztonyi (May 17, 2016): Eva de Gosztonyi shares how, during disasters like the Fort McMurray fires, parents can help children feel safe, lean on attachment, and find resilience through tears and closeness.
- [A Playful Approach to Discipline — Part II](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/a-playful-approach-to-discipline-part-ii) by Gordon Neufeld (Apr 14, 2016): Gordon Nefueld explores how play — not consequences — resolves children’s problem behaviour by addressing immaturity, counterwill, emotions, alarm, and lost tears.
- [A Playful Approach to Discipline — Part I](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/a-playful-approach-to-discipline) by Gordon Neufeld (Mar 16, 2016): Learn why most discipline fails to address the root causes of children’s behaviour. From immaturity to counterwill, Gordon Neufeld shares how play — not consequences — offers the most natural path to helping children grow.
- [Gail: A Life Lived in Widening Circles // By Elana Brief](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/gail-widening-circles) by Guest Contributor (Jan 27, 2016): I live my life in widening circles / that reach out across the world. / I may not complete this last one / but I give myself to it.
- [Recollections of Gail // By Bridgett Miller](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/recollections-of-gail) by Guest Contributor (Jan 25, 2016): Bridgett Miller shares that though Gail may be gone, because of who she was to her, Gail will always be close to her heart, and she feels truly blessed to have known her.
- [Gail In My Heart](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/gail-in-my-heart) by Sara Easterly (Jan 24, 2016): Like the title of Gail's favourite book, Gail remains in Sara Easterly's heart, in the heart of the Institute, and in the hearts of the countless people she touched.
- [Celebrating Counterwill with Gail](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/celebrating-counterwill-with-gail) by Deborah MacNamara (Jan 22, 2016): As Deborah MacNamara reflects and tries to find words to describe who Gail was, she feels the smallness of these letters in relation to Gail's strength, courage, and magnitude as a person.
- [Gail Remembered: A Personal Tribute	](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/gail-remembered-personal-tribute) by Gordon Neufeld (Jan 21, 2016): Gail holds a very special place in Gordon Neufeld's heart, in the writing of Hold On to Your Kids, and in the development of the Neufeld Institute.
- [Helping "Orchid" Children Thrive (Part 3 of 3)](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/helping-orchid-children-thrive-part-3-of-3) by Deborah MacNamara (Dec 1, 2015): Dr. Deborah MacNamara shares how adults can protect, guide, and nurture sensitive "orchid" children — helping them grow resilient through strong attachment.
- [Helping "Orchid" Children Thrive (Part 2 of 3)](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/helping-orchid-children-thrive-part-2-of-3) by Deborah MacNamara (Nov 24, 2015): Sensitive kids are easily overwhelmed by sensory and emotional input. Dr. Deborah MacNamara shares key challenges and the role of strong adult attachment.
- [Helping "Orchid" Children Thrive (Part 1 of 3)](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/helping-orchid-children-thrive-part-1-of-3) by Deborah MacNamara (Nov 17, 2015): One in five kids is an "orchid" child — deeply sensitive, reactive, and bright. Dr. Deborah MacNamara shares how to nurture their growth and attachment.
- [Insight Out: Film Review of Inside Out	](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/insight-out-film-review-of-inside-out) by Sara Easterly (Nov 3, 2015): Watching Inside Out with her kids showed Sara Easterly how Pixar captures the dance of joy, sadness, and attachment — and why every emotion matters for growth.
- [Learning a Language of the Heart](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/learning-a-language-of-the-heart) by Deborah MacNamara (Jun 23, 2015): Children need guidance to express their emotions. Learn how naming feelings and creating safe connections fosters maturity, resilience, and healthy relationships.
- [Spring is Here and … Love is in the Air](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/spring-is-here-and-love-is-in-the-air) by Darlene Denis-Friske (May 11, 2015): Adolescence brings new feelings of romance and attraction. Discover how parents can stay close, listen, and guide with warmth through this tender season.
- [Spring Reminders of the Miracle of Growth // by Elana Strobinsky](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/spring-reminders-of-the-miracle-of-growth) by Guest Contributor (Apr 20, 2015): Watching their pomegranate tree revive after winter reminded Elana Strobinsky of her children’s growth — sometimes slow, sometimes sudden, but always miraculous.
- [Bridging the Night: The Untapped Magic](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/bridging-the-night-the-untapped-magic) by Tamara Strijack (Mar 16, 2015): Tamara Strijack shares how she discovered the untapped magic in her own voice and helped her daughter feel close, calm, and safe when bedtime separation felt overwhelming.
- [Staying Close When Apart](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/staying-close-when-apart) by Gordon Neufeld (Mar 3, 2015): Gordon Neufeld explores the heart’s logic: why separation is the limbic brain’s greatest challenge and how attachment offers the key to staying close.
- [Separation Anxiety: When Saying Good-Bye is Hard](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/separation-anxiety-when-saying-good-bye-is-hard) by Deborah MacNamara (Feb 17, 2015): Why separation is tough for young children and how parents can ease anxiety through attachment, bridging rituals, and supportive relationships.
- [New Year’s Intentions](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/new-years-intentions) by Tamara Strijack (Jan 19, 2015): Resolutions often fail, but intentions create movement and freedom. A personal reflection on family, structure, and living with purpose in the year ahead.
- [Holding On to Our Kids in a Digital World](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/holding-on-to-our-kids-in-a-digital-world) by Deborah MacNamara (Feb 26, 2014): As kids turn to peers and screens, parents can stay connected by leading with warmth, preserving bonds, and guiding children through the digital age.
- [A Legend in His Time  // By Liz Hatherell](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/a-legend-in-his-time) by Guest Contributor (Apr 6, 2013): Ralfe Clench, eccentric yet kind, guided students at Queen’s University with brilliance, structure, and warmth — leaving a legacy of safety and belonging.
- [A School Full of Warmth and Support // By Jean Bigelow](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/a-school-full-of-warmth-and-support-by-jean-bigelow) by Guest Contributor (Mar 6, 2013): Mentorship shaped Jean Bigelow's path from teacher to principal. Guided by Gordon Neufeld and David Graham, she learned that relationships create true warmth in schools.
- [Soft Hearts Open the Doors to Learning](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/soft-hearts-open-the-doors-to-learning) by Shoshana Hayman (Feb 4, 2013): Miss Perkins and Professor Greenberg showed Shoshana Hayman that warmth, joy, and love make learning come alive. Their care turned school into a place she wanted to be.
- [I was smart and good. I was dumb and bad.](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/i-was-smart-and-good-i-was-dumb-and-bad) by Pamela Whyte (Dec 11, 2012): From Miss Neronovich’s warmth to Mrs. Tiller’s care, and the harshness in between, Pamela Whyte's early school years taught her how teachers shape who we believe we are.
- [My Beloved Mrs. Haskins](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/my-beloved-mrs-haskins) by Colleen Drobot (Nov 14, 2012): Colleen Drobot remembers Mrs. Haskins, her Grade 2–3 teacher who led with kindness, firmness, and compassion, making every student feel safe, valued, and loved.
- [I heard my father talking…](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/i-heard-my-father-talking) by Gail Carney (Oct 9, 2012): From her dad’s steady presence to an eccentric art professor, Gail Carney shares how attachment with teachers and mentors shaped her learning and sense of self.
- [Beware the "Overlies"…](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/beware-the-overlies) by Darlene Denis-Friske (Sep 9, 2012): Darlene Denis-Friske has learned to ease her kids through the “overlies” — overtired, overstretched, overwhelmed — by slowing down, connecting, and making space for feelings.
- [The Phone Rang at Nine](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-phone-rang-at-nine) by Lis Kroeker (Jul 17, 2012): Lis Kroeker shares how she almost ignored a late-night call from a worried mom. Meeting her the next day revealed the mom's deeper struggle, and it changed how Lis saw her plea.
- [Believing You’re Mom Enough](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/believing-youre-mom-enough) by Sara Easterly (Jun 8, 2012): Amid media hype and judgment, parents often question if they’re “mom enough.” Sara Easterly shares her journey to finding confidence and trusting her intuition with support from the Neufeld Institute.
- [Sibling Tensions: Staying Outside of Details, and Inside Relationships…](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/sibling-tensions-staying-outside-of-details-and-inside-relationships) by Darlene Denis-Friske (May 17, 2012): When siblings clash, parents often get stuck in details. Learn how to step back, protect connection, and guide children through conflict with empathy.
- [Understanding the Sensitive Child from the Inside Out](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/understanding-the-sensitive-child-from-the-inside-out) by Colleen Drobot (Apr 11, 2012): Parenting a sensitive child can feel overwhelming. Learn how to protect their hearts, lower anxiety, and help them flourish with empathy and resilience.
- [Does your child have an alpha complex?](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/does-your-child-have-an-alpha-complex) by Gordon Neufeld (Mar 7, 2012): Some children are bossy, controlling, or overly caring — signs of an alpha complex. Learn what alpha instincts are, why they develop, and how they affect parenting and child development.
- [The Collecting Dance — The Key to the Heart](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-collecting-dance-the-key-to-the-heart) by Shoshana Hayman (Feb 28, 2012): Learn about the ancient “collecting dance” that helps parents and caregivers connect with children, nurture attachment, and create the trust needed for guidance and growth.
- [Moments of Connection with our Children](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/moments-of-connection-with-our-children) by Darlene Denis-Friske (Jan 16, 2012): Discover how small daily moments of delight, warmth, and presence can strengthen parent–child bonds more than scheduled “quality time.”
- [A New Year’s Yearning](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/a-new-years-yearning) by Gordon Neufeld (Jan 2, 2012): Gordon Neufeld shares a Dickens quote about a heart that never hardens, a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts. He reflects on aging, work, and the unfolding of human potential — still yearning, still growing.
- [There’s No Place Like Home](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/theres-no-place-like-home) by Deborah MacNamara (Dec 21, 2011): Deborah MacNamara shares what home truly means to her — not just walls and a roof, but the safety of attachment. From her daughter’s tears to holiday reflections, she explores how we all long for a place, and a person, that feels like home.
- [Separation Can be Scary](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/separation-can-be-scary) by Patti Drobot (Dec 11, 2011): Separation is hard for many five- and six-year-olds. With attachment, patience, and reassurance, children can face goodbyes and still feel safe and secure.
- [Coming Alongside Our Children](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/coming-along-side-our-children) by Eva de Gosztonyi (Nov 23, 2011): Children need us to listen and reassure them more than to fix every problem. Discover how presence and understanding help them feel safe and valued.
- [Cultivating Attachment Villages](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/cultivating-attachment-villages) by Deborah MacNamara (Oct 31, 2011): Community gives children belonging and support. Discover how to cultivate an attachment village so families can thrive with connection and care.
- [Understanding Anxiety in Young Children](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/understanding-anxiety-in-young-children) by Shoshana Hayman (Oct 21, 2011): When Shoshana Hayman's granddaughter froze at a swarm of ants, she learned how alarm works in children — and how attachment helps them face fear and feel safe.
- [Resilience and the Ugly Doll	](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/resilience-and-the-ugly-doll) by Tamara Strijack (Sep 28, 2011): When her daughter’s beloved “ugly doll” was mocked, Tamara Strijack learned that protecting her daughter meant holding her through pain so she could grow resilient.
- [Next on our study group agenda: Counterwill](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/next-on-our-study-group-agenda-counterwill) by Darlene Denis-Friske (Sep 16, 2011): As a parent and professional, Darlene Denis-Friske has found Neufeld’s concept of counterwill invaluable in understanding children’s resistance and growth.
- [The First Week of School: Creating Connections and Emotional Safety	](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-first-week-of-school-creating-connections-and-emotional-safety) by Colleen Drobot (Sep 11, 2011): As a parent and teacher, Colleen Drobot has seen how emotional safety and connection on the first day of school make all the difference for learning.
- [Being Bored // by Jonas Himmelstrand](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/being-bored) by Guest Contributor (Aug 29, 2011): When his son said, “Daddy, I’m bored,” Jonas Himmelstrand learned it wasn’t about activities — it was about connection. Here’s what he discovered as a parent.
- [Children, Teens, and Technology](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/children-teens-and-technology) by Darlene Denis-Friske (Aug 12, 2011): Darlene Denis-Friske has seen how phones and screens affect kids. Here’s how she created structure and safeguards to keep technology in its healthy place.
- [Summer Vacation — Freedom From or Freedom To?](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/summer-vacation-freedom-from-or-freedom-to) by Shoshana Hayman (Jul 15, 2011): Discover how summer vacation can nurture children’s individuality, creativity, and attachment through rest, play, and unstructured time.
- [Blame](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/blame) by Gail Carney (Jun 29, 2011): Gail Carney explores how blame, guilt, and shame cycle with frustration — and how finding tears can release the pressure.
- [Uncovering the Roots of Delinquency](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/uncovering-the-roots-of-delinquency) by Gordon Neufeld (Jun 23, 2011): Delinquency is less about crime and more about immaturity. Gordon Neufeld explores how emotional desensitization and peer orientation undermine development — and why strong adult attachments are key to prevention.
- [Making Sense of the Senseless](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/making-sense-of-the-senseless) by Deborah MacNamara (Jun 19, 2011): In the wake of the Vancouver riot, Deborah MacNamara wrestles with how to explain the senseless. What she saw wasn’t strength, but immaturity — and real hope lies in raising children who can grow into caring, responsible adults.
- [Children in the Lead with Nowhere to Go](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/children-in-the-lead-with-nowhere-to-go) by Deborah MacNamara (Jun 13, 2011): When children take the lead in family life, it isn’t a sign of strength but of desperation. Discover why kids slip into the Alpha role and how we, as parents, can reclaim our place so they can truly rest and grow.
- [Behaviour Principles: Choosing Intervention Programs in Schools](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/behaviour-principles-choosing-intervention-programs-in-schools) by Eva de Gosztonyi (May 23, 2011): When choosing school behaviour programs, we must consider children’s maturation, vulnerability, and attachment. Interventions should protect development and relationships, not undermine them.
- [And It Was So Beautiful](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/and-it-was-so-beautiful) by Pamela Whyte (May 11, 2011): When her daughter broke down over a feather, Pamela Whyte saw how tears helped her daughter release frustration and soften again. Sadness became the path to healing.
- [A Shoe Went Flying By](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/a-shoe-went-flying-by) by Lis Kroeker (May 2, 2011): A distressed child in kindergarten revealed the importance of sensitivity and support. Affirming a parent’s instincts, rather than judging, helps children feel safe.
- [Supporting the Anxious Child](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/supporting-the-anxious-child) by Colleen Drobot (Apr 20, 2011): Children can develop anxiety after frightening experiences. By strengthening attachment, offering reassurance, and taking the lead, parents help them feel safe and recover.
- [“And Thou Shalt Teach Thy Children…” Linking the Generations Together Through Centuries](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/and-thou-shall-teach-thy-children-linking-the-generations-together-through-centuries) by Shoshana Hayman (Apr 10, 2011): The Passover Seder shows how traditions nurture attachment across generations. In a warm, loving atmosphere, children learn values, faith, and curiosity through family connection.
- [What a Child Needs is Love](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/what-a-child-needs-is-love) by Pamela Whyte (Apr 2, 2011): A preschool teacher from Zaire observes differences in Canadian childcare, highlighting that while independence is emphasized here, children’s deepest need is love and connection.
- [Shame](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/shame) by Gail Carney (Mar 22, 2011): Shame and guilt are not the same. Guilt means recognizing you did something wrong; shame means believing something is wrong with you. Understanding the difference is key to disciplining without damaging connection.
- [The Power of Attachment](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-power-of-attachment) by Patti Drobot (Mar 11, 2011): Attachment is the bond that lasts a lifetime. A grandmother’s love, presence, and care show how deep connections nurture safety, resilience, and belonging across generations.
- [Attachment Hunger](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/attachment-hunger) by Pamela Whyte (Mar 11, 2011): Children need secure relationships as much as food and shelter. When attachment needs go unmet, they show restlessness, clinginess, and insecurity — signs of a hunger for connection.
- [In Praise of Limiting Praise](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/in-praise-of-limiting-praise) by Colleen Drobot (Feb 19, 2011): Too much praise can undermine a child’s confidence and creativity. Unconditional love and support matter more than approval based on success or performance.
- [The Boy Who Didn’t Exist](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-boy-that-didnt-exist) by Lis Kroeker (Feb 11, 2011): A boy labeled a bully revealed deep vulnerability beneath his defiance. Seeing past behaviour to his need for attachment shows the power of soft hearts and caring presence.
- [Recess — Child’s play? // by Cindy Leavitt](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/recess-childs-play) by Guest Contributor (Jan 31, 2011): Recess can be one of the most difficult parts of the school day. Without adult guidance, peer dynamics often lead to conflict. Children thrive when safe adults bring order and connection.
- [Teaching Social Skills	](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/teaching-social-skills) by Eva de Gosztonyi (Jan 22, 2011): Teaching social skills is less about step-by-step programs and more about supporting child development. True growth comes through adult relationships, structure, and patience.
- [Homeschooling: A Personal Journey](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/homeschooling-a-personal-journey) by Tamara Strijack (Jan 11, 2011): Tamara Strijack's homeschooling journey began with worry for her daughter’s well-being. Creating safe, nurturing conditions at home helped her daughter rediscover joy in learning.
- [Back to Basics in the New Year](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/back-to-basics-in-the-new-year) by Gordon Neufeld (Jan 5, 2011): New Year’s parenting resolutions can go beyond health. The most important gift is the invitation for children to exist in our presence, fostering attachment and growth.
- [The Mystery of Magical Thinking](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-mystery-of-magical-thinking) by Deborah MacNamara (Dec 21, 2010): Children’s belief in Santa Claus reflects magical thinking rooted in brain development. As they grow, this stage ends, but the wonder of childhood remains.
- [The Season of Giving](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-season-of-giving) by Darlene Denis-Friske (Dec 14, 2010): Amid holiday stress and gift-giving pressures, what children need most is connection. Warmth, presence, and relationship provide the lasting gifts money can’t buy.
- [The Importance of Desire in Learning](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-importance-of-desire-in-learning) by Deborah MacNamara (Nov 29, 2010): Children learn best when desire comes before instruction. Supporting curiosity, rather than pushing parental interests, fosters motivation, creativity, and lasting growth.
- [Keeping the End in Sight](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/keeping-the-end-in-sight) by Pamela Whyte (Nov 23, 2010): Parenting isn’t about quick fixes like time-outs or consequences. Long-term growth depends on preserving connection, nurturing caring hearts, and guiding children toward maturity.
- [After the hugs — what is happening to our rescued miners now?](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/after-the-hugs-what-is-happening-to-our-rescued-miners-now) by Gordon Neufeld (Nov 4, 2010): The rescue of the Chilean miners shows how facing separation and death stirs deep emotions — pursuit, frustration, and alarm. Healing comes through attachment, tears, and finding comfort in loved ones.
- [Halloween — This is Our Fright Night](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/halloween-fright-night) by Gail Carney (Oct 31, 2010): Halloween play helps children work through fear and anxiety safely. Masks, darkness, and spookiness provide thrills, but home and attachment must anchor security.
- [Bedtime Struggles](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/bed-time-struggles) by Darlene Denis-Friske (Oct 25, 2010): Bedtime struggles are often about separation, not sleep. Meeting a child’s attachment needs with warmth and reassurance helps ease anxiety and build lasting security.
- [Guilt](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/guilt) by Gail Carney (Oct 19, 2010): Guilt is an inevitable part of parenting. While uncomfortable, it plays a role in growth — for both parents and children — by fostering responsibility and connection.
- [Cultivating Independence: A Paradox!](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/cultivating-independence-a-paradox) by Colleen Drobot (Oct 15, 2010): True independence in children grows from dependence first. When parents provide care and support, kids feel secure enough to explore, mature, and stand on their own.
- [Addressing Anxiety // by Cindy Leavitt](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/addressing-anxiety) by Guest Contributor (Oct 11, 2010): Children’s anxiety is real, even when fears seem irrational. By making room for their feelings and offering safety in attachment, parents help kids face fears and build resilience.
- [Carving Out Time for Family Connection](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/carving-out-time-for-family-connection) by Tamara Strijack (Oct 10, 2010): Family traditions, like decorating the Christmas tree together, create connection, belonging, and love. Protecting these moments helps preserve what matters most.
- [What Matters Most](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/what-matters-most) by Colleen Drobot (Oct 10, 2010): Children need to feel they matter. Simple gestures of warmth, delight, and one-on-one time deepen attachment, foster unconditional love, and support healthy development.
- [The Counterwill Storm: Making Sense of Adolescent Resistance](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-counterwill-storm-making-sense-of-adolescent-resistance) by Darlene Denis-Friske (Oct 9, 2010): Learn why teens resist. Gordon Neufeld’s counterwill theory explains adolescent defiance and offers insight for parents and teachers.
- [Absence of "Parent" in the Lives of Adolescents](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/absence-of-parent-in-the-lives-of-adolescents) by Darlene Denis-Friske (Sep 27, 2010): Adolescents need consistent adult guidance and attachment, yet media often portrays parents as absent or irrelevant. Without strong adult involvement, teens risk turning to peers for direction instead of maturing with support.
- [It’s Not Just Child’s Play](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/its-not-just-childs-play) by Deborah MacNamara (Sep 20, 2010): Play is vital for children’s brain development, creativity, and problem-solving. Emergent play — driven by curiosity and imagination — builds the foundation for future learning.
- [School Separation Challenges](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/school-separation-challenges) by Patti Drobot (Sep 13, 2010): Separation at school can be hard for young children. Morning connection, bridging the goodbye, and small rituals help ease transitions and strengthen attachment.
- [The First Day of School](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-first-day-of-school) by Lis Kroeker (Sep 10, 2010): The first day of school can bring fear and worry for children. A safe, caring teacher-student relationship — built on trust, regard, and belief — creates the foundation for learning and growth.
- [Back to School Thoughts](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/back-to-school-thoughts) by Eva de Gosztonyi (Aug 30, 2010): A strong parent-teacher relationship is essential for a child’s learning and growth. Practical steps help build trust and support students in the new school year.
- [Editorial Launch](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/editorial-launch) by Gordon Neufeld (Aug 10, 2010): We are pleased to announce the launch of this editorial feature on our website. We plan to offer weekly insights on attachment-based child development for parents, teachers, and professionals seeking to better understand children.
- [The Heart of the Matter: The role of emotion and attachment in learning and behaviour](https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-heart-of-the-matter) by Gordon Neufeld (Jul 16, 2007): Emotion and attachment are central to learning and behaviour, moving beyond consequences to foster true developmental connection in children

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