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The Wisdom of Dependence

A 29-minute Keynote Address from Dr. Gordon Neufeld with a follow up conference panel discussion with Dr. Deborah MacNamara and Tamara Strijack.

There is nothing that influences our parenting or teaching more than our attitudes towards dependence and independence. We thought the message too important to bury it under a price tag. In this keynote address, Dr. Neufeld goes right to the heart of the matter to reveal how today's society has been thinking about this all wrong, as opposite states rather than as co-existing dynamics. He reveals that it is in our basic nature as creatures of attachment to depend, not only as children but as adults as well. Yet, the fear of dependence continues to dominate, both in regards to ourselves and our children. Received wisdom for generations has called upon us to strive for independence for ourselves, while pushing for independence in our children and students. In so doing, we not only have become stuck and dysfunctional, but we have thwarted Nature in its attempts to take care of us.

→ Includes: A follow up conference panel discussion with Dr. Deborah MacNamara and Tamara Strijack.

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