Free Resources to Help You Make Sense of Kids, Emotions, and Development
Our gift to you and an invitation to support our work
Study guides, free lectures, keynotes and webinars: More than 15 hours of recordings featuring Dr. Gordon Neufeld and members of the Neufeld Institute Faculty. These talks cover a wide range of topics related to attachment, development, parenting, education, and making sense of children — all offered through the lens of the Neufeld attachment-based developmental approach. Whether you are a parent, educator, or helping professional, we hope these materials will deepen your understanding and offer meaningful insights into the needs of the children and youth in your care.
If we could, we would give everything away for free. We certainly don’t want finances to stand in the way of making sense of kids. While it’s not possible for us to offer our courses at no cost — there are real and ongoing expenses involved — the funds from their sale allow us to make select presentations freely available, especially those we believe are too important to keep behind a paywall.
Offering some of our materials as free resources is not a reflection of lesser value, but rather a statement of their invaluableness. If you find these offerings helpful, we warmly invite you to share this page with others who might also benefit.
This resource is freely offered to you as part of our commitment to making sense of children accessible to all who care for them. The Neufeld Institute is a Canadian non-profit society and charitable organization, and much of what we create is sustained by those who value our work.
If our work resonates with you, and you’d like to contribute, we’d be grateful for any amount you choose to give — it helps us keep going and continue sharing these insights more widely.
Free Study Guides
Hold On to Your Kids: Study Guide
The Hold On to Your Kids Study Guide includes chapter-by-chapter discussion questions as well as an abundant collection of additional resources. We hope that this free guide will inspire the creation of book study groups – in schools, churches, synagogues, mosques and community centres – so that more parents, teachers and grandparents can access and explore together the rich and necessary insights that Dr. Neufeld provides in the book.
Rest, Play, Grow: Study Guide
Based on science and the relational developmental approach of renowned psychologist Gordon Neufeld, Rest, Play, Grow reveals how adults have a critical role to play in creating the conditions for young children to flourish. This is the story of how young children develop, from their intense need for attachment and the vital importance of play to discipline that preserves growth.
To receive your FREE copy of the Rest, Play, Grow study guide, visit Deborah MacNamara’s website.
Get a 30-day Study Pass to our Free Keynotes, Presentations and Webinars
We want our free resources to be truly used—not just stored for “someday.” That’s why each one comes with a 30-day Campus Study Pass: a gentle nudge to begin now, while the invitation is fresh. We’ve found that when there’s a natural time frame, people are more likely to dive in and benefit from the resource.
Relationship Matters: The challenges of parenting and teaching today’s children
2 hours Keynote + downloadable Resource Package
What do today’s children need most to truly grow up? In this powerful keynote, Dr. Gordon Neufeld explores why adult-child relationships are the essential context for parenting and teaching — not just behavior strategies or academic pressures. He explains how deep connection, secure attachment, and developmental insight provide the conditions for children to realize their full potential, even in today’s challenging world.
The Wisdom of Dependence
29-min keynote + 33-min panel
Our attitudes toward dependence shape everything we do as parents, teachers, and caregivers — yet modern culture has been getting it wrong. In this eye-opening keynote, Dr. Gordon Neufeld reveals why dependence and independence are not opposites, but intertwined forces in healthy development. He explains how the human need to depend — not just in childhood, but throughout life — is key to resilience, maturation, and connection.
Neufeld’s Traffic Circle Model of Frustration
23-min Keynote + 1.5-hour panel discussion
Frustration is one of our most profound and powerful emotions — yet modern culture often misunderstands and mishandles it. In this eye-opening presentation, Dr. Gordon Neufeld introduces his frustration “traffic circle” model, revealing why frustration is key to problem-solving, adaptation, and resilience — but also why it so easily turns into aggression or despair when blocked. He explains how understanding frustration is crucial for supporting both children and adults on the path to emotional health.
Roots of Attachment: The six stages of relationship
1.5-hour webinar by Gordon Neufeld
How does a child’s capacity for deep relationship develop? In this illuminating webinar, Dr. Gordon Neufeld lays out his six-stage model of attachment, showing how children are meant to hold on to their parents and key adults — not just physically, but emotionally and psychologically. He explains why this developmental process is not automatic, how modern culture can interfere, and why nurturing deep attachment is essential for emotional health, resilience, and true maturation.
Getting Bedtime Right
1.5-hour presentation by Gordon Neufeld
Bedtime isn’t just about sleep — it’s about attachment, separation, and the emotional well-being of our children. In this warm and insightful presentation, Dr. Gordon Neufeld reveals why getting bedtime right matters not only for peaceful nights but for helping children handle life’s many separations. Discover why common sleep strategies often fall short, and learn how tools like bridging, play, and lullabies can gently guide children into rest and resilience.
Keys to Emotional Health & Well-Being
A 1.25 hour Keynote Address from Dr. Gordon Neufeld
What fosters true emotional health and resilience in children? In this compelling keynote, Dr. Gordon Neufeld reveals why emotional well-being is not something we manage, but something we cultivate through relationship. He explains how caring adults — not outside experts — provide the essential conditions for growth, rest, play, and healing, helping children realize their full potential.
Creating Playgrounds for Emotional Expression
1.25-hour webinar with Tamara Strijack & Hannah Beach
What happens when emotions get stuck? In this engaging and insightful webinar, Tamara Strijack and Hannah Beach explore why emotional expression is essential for healthy development — and how play can create the safe spaces we all need to release, process, and move through big feelings. With practical guidance and real-life examples, they show how we can support children, adolescents, and even ourselves in finding natural outlets for emotional energy.
Preparing for Motherhood
1.25-hour workshop with Dr. Gordon Neufeld
What does it really mean to prepare for parenthood? In this warm and insightful session, Dr. Gordon Neufeld reassures parents — especially expecting mothers — that the true preparation is not about knowing or doing more, but about becoming the answer a child needs. He explores how to transition a baby from the physical womb to the “attachment womb,” where healthy development unfolds, and offers empowering insights on natural parenting instincts, building a village of attachment, and nurturing emotional connection and play.
What About Me? Reflections on Growing Up as Adults
1.5 hours | Two-part keynote by Dr. Gordon Neufeld
In this heartfelt keynote, Dr. Gordon Neufeld explores the surprising ways caregiving helps adults grow up too. With humor and deep insight, he reflects on why parenting and teaching don’t require perfection or “being fully grown” — they become the path to emotional maturation.
Ode to Melancholy
1.25 hours | Presentation by Genevieve Schreier
In this thoughtful and moving talk, Genevieve Schreier invites us to rethink sadness — not as something to avoid, but as a vital part of human experience. She explores why melancholy holds hidden gifts for growth, resilience, and emotional depth, and how we can gently come alongside this often-misunderstood feeling in both ourselves and our loved ones.
Bouncing Back: From Stress to Strength
1.25 hours | Keynote by Dr. Gordon Neufeld
In this empowering keynote, Dr. Gordon Neufeld reveals how stress, when understood through the lens of emotion and attachment, can become a source of strength. He explores how nature equips both children and adults to recover and adapt — and how we as caregivers can nurture resilience, even when life’s challenges don’t let up.
Address at the Kyiv First Ladies and Gentlemen Summit
16 minutes | Interview with Dr. Gordon Neufeld
In this special address, Dr. Gordon Neufeld speaks to the urgent youth mental health crisis in Ukraine. He offers a moving perspective on how attachment, emotional safety, and the power of play can help children and adolescents withstand even the most unbearable circumstances — reminding us that resilience is rooted not in diagnoses, but in the strength of caring relationships.
Please note: most of these resources are also available on our YouTube channel, but by accessing them on our campus we want to offer something different to you—a quieter, more focused space, free from distractions and grounded in reflection.
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