Editorials by Dr. Gordon Neufeld

Gordon Neufeld · Oct 2, 2025
Reflections on Stuckness
Stuckness is a hidden yet common issue in childhood. Gordon Neufeld outlines the signs and causes of Stuckness, and how adults can make a difference.…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · May 25, 2025
Long Live Shyness!
Gordon Neufeld reframes shyness as a natural gift of attachment, not a disorder. Learn why shyness matters, how it differs from social anxiety, and w…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Jan 8, 2025
Neufeld on When Attachments Fail
What if the key to moving forward is learning how to grieve? Gordon Neufeld reflects on loss, attachment, and why sadness may be the path to healing.…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Sep 10, 2024
Neufeld Rants on Empathy
Dr. Gordon Neufeld challenges common misunderstandings about empathy, revealing its true developmental roots and what it really takes to grow a carin…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Feb 28, 2024
Neufeld on Why I Capitalize Nature
Dr. Gordon Neufeld shares why he capitalizes “Nature” — honouring its guiding role in human development, healing, and the unfolding of potential. Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Jan 9, 2024
Neufeld on Endless Beginnings
Dr. Gordon Neufeld reflects on the nature of fresh starts, the importance of pausing, and why new beginnings are rooted in something deeper than doin…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Sep 4, 2023
It All Depends
Dr. Gordon Neufeld explores why dependence is central to child development and relationships, urging parents and teachers to invite children to truly…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Apr 4, 2023
Rethinking Dependence
Dr. Gordon Neufeld challenges the push for early independence in children, highlighting the wisdom of dependence and how attachment fosters true grow…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Nov 18, 2022
Reflections from Gordon on the Mystery of Coupling
Gordon Neufeld explores the mystery of coupling, revealing how marriage and relationships make sense through an attachment-based lens. Read more

Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

By Dr. Gordon Neufeld

This book, written by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, is about the pivotal importance of children’s relationships to those responsible for them and the devastating impact in today’s society of competing attachments with peers.

However it is much more than a book on peer orientation: it is about parenting with relationship in mind.

This book restores parents to their natural intuition, confronting such relationship-devastating devices as time-outs and using what children care about against them.

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