Editorials by Dr. Gordon Neufeld

Jan 9, 2024
Neufeld on Endless Beginnings
Gordon Neufeld
Dr. Gordon Neufeld reflects on the nature of fresh starts, the importance of pausing, and why new beginnings are rooted in something deeper than doin…Read more
Sep 4, 2023
It All Depends
Gordon Neufeld
Dr. Gordon Neufeld explores why dependence is central to child development and relationships, urging parents and teachers to invite children to truly…Read more
Apr 4, 2023
Rethinking Dependence
Gordon Neufeld
Dr. Gordon Neufeld challenges the push for early independence in children, highlighting the wisdom of dependence and how attachment fosters true grow…Read more
Nov 18, 2022
Reflections from Gordon on the Mystery of Coupling
Gordon Neufeld
Gordon Neufeld explores the mystery of coupling, revealing how marriage and relationships make sense through an attachment-based lens. Read more
Sep 6, 2022
The Untold Story of Frustration in 18 Minutes
Gordon Neufeld
Gordon Neufeld reveals the untold story of frustration — how it shapes attachment, brain function, and emotional development. Read more
Oct 4, 2021
There’s a Hole in My Bucket
Gordon Neufeld
Gordon Neufeld reflects on futility, attachment, and the challenges of bedtime — where sadness, connection, and letting go come together. Read more
Sep 3, 2020
Could Home Education Be More Than Just a Backup Plan?
Gordon Neufeld
What do children really need to become fully human and humane, civilized and cultured. And secondly, how does school fit into these irreducible needs…Read more
Jun 16, 2020
Confronting Racism — A Call for Reflection
Gordon Neufeld
Gordon Neufeld explores the roots of racism in attachment polarization, the role of emotional immaturity, and how parents, teachers, and leaders can …Read more
Apr 16, 2020
When Bringing School Home, Don’t Sacrifice the “Home”
Gordon Neufeld
Gordon Neufeld explains why, in homeschooling, a child’s sense of home and attachment with parents must come before academics. Read more
Jan 9, 2024
Neufeld on Endless Beginnings
Gordon Neufeld
Dr. Gordon Neufeld reflects on the nature of fresh starts, the importance of pausing, and why new beginnings are rooted in something deeper than doin…Read more
Sep 4, 2023
It All Depends
Gordon Neufeld
Dr. Gordon Neufeld explores why dependence is central to child development and relationships, urging parents and teachers to invite children to truly…Read more
Apr 4, 2023
Rethinking Dependence
Gordon Neufeld
Dr. Gordon Neufeld challenges the push for early independence in children, highlighting the wisdom of dependence and how attachment fosters true grow…Read more
Nov 18, 2022
Reflections from Gordon on the Mystery of Coupling
Gordon Neufeld
Gordon Neufeld explores the mystery of coupling, revealing how marriage and relationships make sense through an attachment-based lens. Read more
Sep 6, 2022
The Untold Story of Frustration in 18 Minutes
Gordon Neufeld
Gordon Neufeld reveals the untold story of frustration — how it shapes attachment, brain function, and emotional development. Read more
Oct 4, 2021
There’s a Hole in My Bucket
Gordon Neufeld
Gordon Neufeld reflects on futility, attachment, and the challenges of bedtime — where sadness, connection, and letting go come together. Read more
Sep 3, 2020
Could Home Education Be More Than Just a Backup Plan?
Gordon Neufeld
What do children really need to become fully human and humane, civilized and cultured. And secondly, how does school fit into these irreducible needs…Read more
Jun 16, 2020
Confronting Racism — A Call for Reflection
Gordon Neufeld
Gordon Neufeld explores the roots of racism in attachment polarization, the role of emotional immaturity, and how parents, teachers, and leaders can …Read more
Apr 16, 2020
When Bringing School Home, Don’t Sacrifice the “Home”
Gordon Neufeld
Gordon Neufeld explains why, in homeschooling, a child’s sense of home and attachment with parents must come before academics. Read more

Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

By Dr. Gordon Neufeld

This book, written by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, is about the pivotal importance of children’s relationships to those responsible for them and the devastating impact in today’s society of competing attachments with peers.

However it is much more than a book on peer orientation: it is about parenting with relationship in mind.

This book restores parents to their natural intuition, confronting such relationship-devastating devices as time-outs and using what children care about against them.

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