Editorials by Dr. Gordon Neufeld

Dr. Gordon Neufeld explains why displaced Ukrainian children are failing to adapt — and what two natural responses, relationship and emotional play, …Read more
The sirens of ancient mythology typically seduced through irresistible song, inexplicably drawing their victims to them and thus away from their tru…Read more
Are we over-diagnosing immaturity? Dr. Gordon Neufeld explores how true psychological insight helps us support hypersensitivity better than medical l…Read more
Rather than sculpting children through consequences or treating them as blank slates to be filled, Gordon Neufeld shows how secure attachment roots a…Read more
Stuckness is a hidden yet common issue in childhood. Gordon Neufeld outlines the signs and causes of Stuckness, and how adults can make a difference.…Read more
Gordon Neufeld reframes shyness as a natural gift of attachment, not a disorder. Learn why shyness matters, how it differs from social anxiety, and w…Read more
What if the key to moving forward is learning how to grieve? Gordon Neufeld reflects on loss, attachment, and why sadness may be the path to healing.…Read more
Dr. Gordon Neufeld challenges common misunderstandings about empathy, revealing its true developmental roots and what it really takes to grow a carin…Read more
Dr. Gordon Neufeld shares why he capitalizes “Nature” — honouring its guiding role in human development, healing, and the unfolding of potential. Read more
Dr. Gordon Neufeld explains why displaced Ukrainian children are failing to adapt — and what two natural responses, relationship and emotional play, …Read more
The sirens of ancient mythology typically seduced through irresistible song, inexplicably drawing their victims to them and thus away from their tru…Read more
Are we over-diagnosing immaturity? Dr. Gordon Neufeld explores how true psychological insight helps us support hypersensitivity better than medical l…Read more
Rather than sculpting children through consequences or treating them as blank slates to be filled, Gordon Neufeld shows how secure attachment roots a…Read more
Stuckness is a hidden yet common issue in childhood. Gordon Neufeld outlines the signs and causes of Stuckness, and how adults can make a difference.…Read more
Gordon Neufeld reframes shyness as a natural gift of attachment, not a disorder. Learn why shyness matters, how it differs from social anxiety, and w…Read more
What if the key to moving forward is learning how to grieve? Gordon Neufeld reflects on loss, attachment, and why sadness may be the path to healing.…Read more
Dr. Gordon Neufeld challenges common misunderstandings about empathy, revealing its true developmental roots and what it really takes to grow a carin…Read more
Dr. Gordon Neufeld shares why he capitalizes “Nature” — honouring its guiding role in human development, healing, and the unfolding of potential. Read more

Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

By Dr. Gordon Neufeld

This book, written by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, is about the pivotal importance of children’s relationships to those responsible for them and the devastating impact in today’s society of competing attachments with peers.

However it is much more than a book on peer orientation: it is about parenting with relationship in mind.

This book restores parents to their natural intuition, confronting such relationship-devastating devices as time-outs and using what children care about against them.

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