Neufeld Intensive III - Becoming Attached

Attachment is absolutely fundamental to who we are and what we do. It follows then that understanding the dynamic of attachment would provide the keys to self-understanding. It also follows that our self-understanding is only going to be as good as the model of attachment we are using. Dr. Neufeld’s six-stage theory of attachment provides a comprehensive model that is universal in its application. Each way of attaching is explored to reveal a treasure trove of insights with the power to explain perplexing phenomenon as well as our own inner experience. Each way of attaching is also embedded in the psychological literature that points to it. The last way of attaching - via ‘self-disclosure’ - is also explored as the catalyst for growth through the life-span.

Each of the six ways of attaching are unpacked to understand what the various dynamics look like through that lens: alpha instincts, shyness, alarm, depersonalization, wounding, defensive detachment. We also explore the purpose of each form of proximity, the relationship with other forms of connection, and the temptations involved in each way of pursuing closeness. Issues of exclusiveness in, and the sexualization of, each mode of attachment is examined. Besides making sense of ourselves and our children, this material can be used to make sense of any attachment relationship, including marriage, friendship and the relationship to one’s God.

This course is part of our foundational studies which serves as the portal to our advanced support subscription.