Editorials by Dr. Gordon Neufeld and the faculty

Our editorials offer insights from Dr. Gordon Neufeld and faculty, applying attachment-based developmental science to the pressing issues of our time. These writings help parents, educators, and professionals navigate complex topics with clarity, wisdom, and a deep understanding of human development.

Darlene Denis-Friske · Oct 25, 2010
Bedtime Struggles
Bedtime struggles are often about separation, not sleep. Meeting a child’s attachment needs with warmth and reassurance helps ease anxiety and build …Read more
Gail Carney · Oct 19, 2010
Guilt
Guilt is an inevitable part of parenting. While uncomfortable, it plays a role in growth — for both parents and children — by fostering responsibilit…Read more
Colleen Drobot · Oct 15, 2010
Cultivating Independence: A Paradox!
True independence in children grows from dependence first. When parents provide care and support, kids feel secure enough to explore, mature, and sta…Read more
Guest Contributor · Oct 11, 2010
Addressing Anxiety // by Cindy Leavitt
Children’s anxiety is real, even when fears seem irrational. By making room for their feelings and offering safety in attachment, parents help kids f…Read more
Tamara Strijack · Oct 10, 2010
Carving Out Time for Family Connection
Family traditions, like decorating the Christmas tree together, create connection, belonging, and love. Protecting these moments helps preserve what …Read more
Colleen Drobot · Oct 10, 2010
What Matters Most
Children need to feel they matter. Simple gestures of warmth, delight, and one-on-one time deepen attachment, foster unconditional love, and support …Read more
Darlene Denis-Friske · Oct 9, 2010
The Counterwill Storm: Making Sense of Adolescent Resistance
Learn why teens resist. Gordon Neufeld’s counterwill theory explains adolescent defiance and offers insight for parents and teachers. Read more
Darlene Denis-Friske · Sep 27, 2010
Absence of "Parent" in the Lives of Adolescents
Adolescents need consistent adult guidance and attachment, yet media often portrays parents as absent or irrelevant. Without strong adult involvement…Read more
Deborah MacNamara · Sep 20, 2010
It’s Not Just Child’s Play
Play is vital for children’s brain development, creativity, and problem-solving. Emergent play — driven by curiosity and imagination — builds the fou…Read more