Editorials by Dr. Gordon Neufeld

Gordon Neufeld · Oct 4, 2021
There’s a Hole in My Bucket
Gordon Neufeld reflects on futility, attachment, and the challenges of bedtime—where sadness, connection, and letting go come together. Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Sep 3, 2020
Could Home Education Be More Than Just a Backup Plan?
What do children really need to become fully human and humane, civilized and cultured. And secondly, how does school fit into these irreducible needs…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Jun 16, 2020
Confronting Racism – A Call for Reflection
Gordon Neufeld explores the roots of racism in attachment polarization, the role of emotional immaturity, and how parents, teachers, and leaders can …Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Apr 16, 2020
When Bringing School Home, Don’t Sacrifice the “Home”
Gordon Neufeld explains why, in homeschooling, a child’s sense of home and attachment with parents must come before academics. Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Mar 29, 2020
Taking Care of Children in Alarming Times
Gordon Neufeld on helping children feel safe in uncertain times—through attachment, play, and simple non-alarming scripts that guide and protect. Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Dec 9, 2019
‘Tis the Season for Sad Music!
Gordon Neufeld explores how sad music helps us process hidden emotions, restore balance, and rediscover joy during the holiday season. Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Sep 3, 2019
Bouncing Back After School: heart hygiene for our children
Gordon Neufeld explains how children’s feelings freeze under school stress and why safe after-school moments are vital for resilience and attachment.…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Jan 17, 2019
An Unusual New Year’s Greeting
Gordon Neufeld reflects on happiness, rest, and the science of play, sharing why true playfulness may be the missing key to well-being for us and our…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Jan 17, 2018
Reflections on Making Sense of Kids
Gordon Neufeld reflects on why insight is essential in parenting and teaching today, exploring intuition, attachment, and the challenge of making sen…Read more

Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

By Dr. Gordon Neufeld

This book, written by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, is about the pivotal importance of children’s relationships to those responsible for them and the devastating impact in today’s society of competing attachments with peers.

However it is much more than a book on peer orientation: it is about parenting with relationship in mind.

This book restores parents to their natural intuition, confronting such relationship-devastating devices as time-outs and using what children care about against them.

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