Editorials by Dr. Gordon Neufeld

Gordon Neufeld · Mar 15, 2017
Could you bounce back?
Why do some recover from adversity while others falter? Gordon Neufeld explains resilience as the key to healing, growth, and emotional well-being. Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Jan 11, 2017
Where has all the maturity gone, and why have so few noticed its lack?
What happened to maturity? Gordon Neufeld explores immaturity in society, attachment, and how parents can provide the conditions for children to grow…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Apr 14, 2016
A Playful Approach to Discipline – Part II
I explore how play—not consequences—resolves children’s problem behaviour by addressing immaturity, counterwill, emotions, alarm, and lost tears. Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Mar 16, 2016
A Playful Approach to Discipline – Part I
Learn why most discipline fails to address the root causes of children’s behaviour. From immaturity to counterwill, I share how play—not consequences…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Jan 21, 2016
Gail Remembered: A Personal Tribute
Gail holds a very special place in my heart, in the writing of the book [Hold On to Your Kids], and in the development of the Neufeld Institute. Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Mar 3, 2015
Staying Close When Apart
Gordon Neufeld explores the heart’s logic: why separation is the limbic brain’s greatest challenge and how attachment offers the key to staying close…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Mar 7, 2012
Does your child have an alpha complex?
Some children are bossy, controlling, or overly caring — signs of an alpha complex. Learn what alpha instincts are, why they develop, and how they af…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Jan 2, 2012
A New Year’s Yearning
On my 65th birthday, I found myself drawn to a Dickens quote about a heart that never hardens, a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurt…Read more
Gordon Neufeld · Jun 23, 2011
Uncovering the Roots of Delinquency
Delinquency is less about crime and more about immaturity. Gordon Neufeld explores how emotional desensitization and peer orientation undermine devel…Read more

Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

By Dr. Gordon Neufeld

This book, written by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, is about the pivotal importance of children’s relationships to those responsible for them and the devastating impact in today’s society of competing attachments with peers.

However it is much more than a book on peer orientation: it is about parenting with relationship in mind.

This book restores parents to their natural intuition, confronting such relationship-devastating devices as time-outs and using what children care about against them.

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